setting new year intentions

we’ve been setting new years resolutions forever & no one ever really looked at the mental side of the potential failure of these resolutions. while some succeed & feel the euphoria around that, it can be fleeting. trust me, i am an enneagram one, type a personality, like at my core so i have set the resolutions myself but when 2022 began winding down, i saw my mental health was taking a toll & i promised to put myself first in 2023. i needed to put my money where my mouth was though. so i began making a list of intentions for 2023, for me to give myself the feeling of accomplishment, get the items i was thinking about so often out of my brain & make some plans.

i took some time off social media to spend the holidays with my family, soak in a new year coming up & figure out exactly what i wanted out of my social presence. you see, when you share your life online, it can become hard to separate reality from the expectations online. i found myself comparing often, losing focus on why i began sharing online in the first place & questioning the position i wanted to “hold” here.

so i started writing again. i had a blog when i was initially documenting my weight loss journey back in 2017 but since it was exactly that, a journal of my thoughts. since i became a mom, i have had seasons of my life come & go. while even the corner of the internet i consume has taken shape, grown & become even more special to me, it’s not lost on me that when i started treating this space with the care it deserved & found connection over “work” it found its way into my heart, creating a true passion project that has now turned into a business.

more on the business side of things later, but part of my new year intentions this year is to find more connection & start writing again. some of my intentions are quite literal, lose the last 100lbs to find my happy, healthy weight. some are more frivolous but also geared towards self care like getting my nails done again & highlighting my hair. some of them are geared towards my mental health like minimizing my home more, for my inner peace. all of this to say, goals are great but it’s the intention behind them that breeds success.

i want you to think more freely about your choices, find goals that create balance, support your own mental health by choosing yourself, friend.